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I’d been working like crazy, writing about the feminine – books and blogs
My mind's been more creative than ever (or in over-drive, I’m not sure which).
Maybe just trying to hide my head in the sand after the election.
But I’ve been feeling like a hypocrite!
Trying to get a crazy amount done.
Losing touch with my own feminine essence, my gentleness, compassion, and intuitive knowing
All the while telling you how NOT to!
I’d definitely been pushing hard.
Excited by my way too over-enthusiastic goals
Strong-arming my body to submit to my mind’s timeline.
And never feeling like I’d done enough.
HERE’S THE THING…
My behavior was not that different from what is being glorified today in DC.
I’ve just gotten a very clear mirror!
It’s easy to see it out there!
And we hate it.
The dominating. Castigating. Shaming. Bullying.
The way dissent is being silenced, weakness punished, fear instilled.
But it was also what we do to ourselves.
This has been me.
Even with all I know about what kindness and sensitivity looks like!
Even with my ongoing devotion to the feminine!
You see, we’ve all learned our lessons well.
This is our world, abusive and out of balance
It’s the energy we live in.
Like a fish swimming in tainted water, we hardly notice its abuse.
We are unknowingly driven by what I’m calling the Hyper-Masculine.
Don’t get confused here. This is not about gender.
I could call it the Imbalanced Yang if we all knew Taoist wisdom.
It happens to be what has co-oped our society,
Our political system.
Our financial system.
And our everyday lives.
This hyper, immature masculine is damaging the Earth.
And every being that lives here.
Mr. Trump just gives us a clearer taste of the water in which we’re swimming.
It’s time for action.
Time to speak up for those values of the masculine that we most want to lead the way.
But we can only change when we see the shadow that hides within.
I have a lot to say about this.
I’ve been inhaling this body of work for more than 10 years,
devoted to re-imagining and re-awakening the healthy feminine.
But all my work makes no sense without a curiosity for the healthy masculine.
We have models around us, but they don't make the headlines.
This authentic masculine demonstrates a strength and integrity that is often quiet. But substantial. Consistent.
A humble and competent stillness in the face of danger.
Able to take a joke and smile at their humanity.
Its presence speaks for itself.
And when it does speak every bone in your body resonates to its bass note of truth.
The healthy masculine feels solid, trustworthy.
It supports what most needs its strength.
It’s strong, but never forced.
It harnessed its power for a purpose.
It’s decisive and determined, but never a bully.
It is confident, without bravado.
There’s no need for a big show of strength when the strength is real.
It’s strategic and fierce when protecting those in need.
It knows how to structure life so my feminine can relax and blossom.
This is the masculine I want to recognize and celebrate this year.
And it’s what I want to develop in myself.
It undergirds my actions to stand for what’s healthy for our country, as well as myself.
I’d love you to come with me.
What aspect of your own firm masculine’s secure support do you need to bring forth your best?
I’d love to know if you can relate? Does this make sense to you? Please let me know in the comments below. Your insights are our inspiration.
Let’s live that line... being the change we want to see most!
I’m standing with you, Brave Souls.
Mary is an intimacy coach, sensuality educator, spiritual counselor, and writer who leads retreats around the globe and privately coaches women and couples. All at the intersection of the sacred and the senses.