Who am I?
First, I'm a continual adventurer into intimacy. But I didn't start out that way. Growing up in a loving but religiously restrictive home, I had very little connection to my body. Still, I innately knew that deep committed connection was my path.
An early marriage (and my romantic idealism) faded when inevitable intimacy issues arose that we had no sense of how to address.
It wasn't until my mid-40s that I began a serious search into my own core defensive compensations and recurring struggles in relationship. I couldn't hide out any more. It was after nearly 20 years of a long-term marriage and mothering 3 children that I "remembered" an early incident of sexual abuse. As I began to peal back the cultural overlay of dis-respect for the feminine and my own long-standing and unrecognized repression, I launched into the adventure that has become my calling: to release all that stands in the way of living ALIVE in my own erotic life-force energy ... and assist others in adventuring there, too.
Over the last 14 years I have been devoted to the ancient teachings and practices of tantra and qigong, and have attended or assisted in more personal growth, spiritual, and relationship trainings than I can count. I am certified as an Exceptional Marriage Mentor and am accredited and endorsed through Caroline Muir's Divine Feminine Institute's rigorous program as a spiritual/sexual educator and practitioner.
Then in 2013, after two years of focused study, I was ordained as an inter-spiritual minister through One Spirit Interfaith Seminary in New York City, bringing together my devotion to Deep Connection and my passion for living fully alive in this body, in this lifetime.
We all carry wounds that, if not released, limit the joy we might feel in life. Most people are willing to live half-alive, satisfied with the patterns they're created to avoid exploring what hinders real living.
I've watched how healing happens most powerfully when our bodies are involved instead of ignored. Through my work, I have had the pleasure to personally assist well over 100 singles and couples who were no longer satisfied with life as usual... or who knew there had to be more to intimacy than what they'd experienced thus far. It's my particular joy to accompany couples in welcoming Spirit, Heart, Mind, and Body to dance together.
I am also a frequent blogger at DiviningBeauty.com and the author of the forthcoming book, The Pleasure Playbook: 13 Invitations for Awakening Joy. I lead retreats and workshops for women and couples in New England, Central America, and New Zealand, teach on-line workshops, and coach and counsel couples, individuals, and groups as we re-unite the sensual, sexual, and spiritual to live the life all humans were meant to enjoy.
Listen here for Mary's interview on the Reinvention Success Stories podcast, where she describes her journey.