Before I went on a weekend retreat to complete a draft of my book, a friend recommended that, more than anything else, I just follow my appetite. He suggested I watch for the ways that I usually double-down and push through, and instead just be attentive to what I want, what ignites me. So I did.
I napped. After breakfast that first morning I read some of what I’d already written, and then took a nap! Really?! I had no idea how exhausted I was! But afterward I felt ready to edit. In a bit I realized I was getting cold… time to make a wood run. When I came back in, fresh from the outdoor chill, I was ready to re-articulate the introduction to my book.
For two days, I watched myself both follow my appetite and forget to do just that.
I’m in such a habit of working, ignoring my body that sometimes I didn’t even know what I wanted. It’s so easy to follow my well-trained habit and work till the job is done, not noticing my body's needs.
Really tuning in to our desires may be the greatest challenge we have as women in this culture. We’re well trained to see them as selfish and immature. Definitely not smart or enlightened.
So this week I've been watching how my appetite can be a healthy expression of my intuition. My being knows what it wants. I just need to listen and trust my wisdom – not constantly overrule it out of habit or fear.
So what happened next??? Later that week, my appetite had me soaking in the hot tub with a hot man.
How would it be – just for today – if you followed your appetite? It’s the first full day of spring. Can you feel what’s budding in your own life? What wants to blossom when you listen?
Mary is an intimacy coach, sensuality educator, spiritual counselor, and writer who leads retreats around the globe and privately coaches women and couples. All at the intersection of the sacred and the senses.